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YouTubeThe Columbus Dispatch wrote On hold20-somethings are increasingly putting off marriage
Thursday, September 13, 2007 3:35 AM
By Debbie Gebolys and Kathy Lynn Gray
Portion of population ages 20 to 24 that is staying single:
2006: 82% nationally, 87% in Columbus
2000: 74% nationally, 83% in Columbus
Michele George, who freeze-dries bridal bouquets and puts them in glass at her Everlasting Memories business in Orient, said: "I don't get a lot of younger brides because it isn't cheap."
Instead of saying "I do," Columbus men and women in their 20s prefer "not yet."
Census figures released this week show that more people are putting off marriage until they're in their 30s. And in Columbus, even more people are doing that than the state and national average.
Among Columbus men ages 20 to 24 last year, just one in 10 was married. Columbus women in their early 20s weren't much more eager to walk down the aisle. Just 16 percent of them said they were married, compared with 22 percent nationally.
Capital University juniors Max Roach, 21, and Joel Senkar, 20, weren't the least bit surprised.
Roach said he won't get married, and Senkar said he probably won't.
"We're musicians" and best friends, Roach said. "We have this whole problem of putting careers before people."
Senkar plays trombone and Roach is a trumpeter. They want to join a group that plays big-band music when they graduate.
"We want to be in bands that travel, get a job on a cruise line," Senkar said.
Roach said his girlfriend is "kind of on the same page because she's in the music industry, too."
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Staying Single Longer
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BetsyB
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mightymighty
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By the time people in Columbus hit their 30s, wedding bells sound sweeter.
Among men and women 30 to 34, more have made a trip to the altar than haven't. In Columbus, 65 percent of people in that age group are married.
But even the 30-somethings could be in for some changes. The median age for first marriages for men and women nationally has never been higher. The 2007 national median, which matches the Ohio number, was age 27.5 for men and 25.9 for women.
hm! I'm not sure how I feel about this. I'm 30+ and not married... so... yay I guess. Yay I don't have an ex husband! But yet... I'm late in getting my first ex husband, as I am past 25.9. So CRAP! CRAP I don't have an ex husband!
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lifeliberty
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it's only paper.
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Mercurius
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Almost all of my good friends from high school are hitched now. The funniest thing was one of their mom's came up to me and said "Wow, I can't believe how many of you are getting married, well, I guess I did also when I was your age, but that was different, you know because" as she proceeded to pelvic thrust.
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lifeliberty
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exactly.
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lifeliberty
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why do you want to get married?
Posted 4 years ago # -
enzo
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No you are not going to be a cool 20 or 30 something but you are going to pair up with someone and hang out until you are much older and still be cool and still be hot to each other because you know and love each others heart and soul, have great conversations, great sex, lift each other up, etc. that is what makes things last.........
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swan
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I dont think many people have the ability to "think outside the box" so to speak...
they just think youre supposed to get a bf\gf... date for a certain amount of time... turn a certain age, fall in "love," get married and make babies... etc. ick!
i have waaay too many languages to learn... and countries to live in before i need to worry about all that nonsense.
edit: of course im not saying theres anything wrong with the former... for the people who took that route.
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rave_til_dawn
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enzo wrote May I say it is JUST A PIECE OF PAPER....IT IS JUST A PIECE OF JEWELRY...
I completely disagree. We always thought it was just a piece of paper too....until we got married. No offense but if you boil down marriage to that statement, you're missing the point. I can easily say that our marriage relationship is by far much stronger than our dating relationship. Which I attest to a lot more than "just a piece of paper".
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Coremodels
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Wonder how closely tied this is to the divorce rate of the parents of the generation this is referring to.
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honavery
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I think a lot of people want to get married because it is just kind of something you do...like a right of passage almost. It's like graduating high school or going to the prom or whatever. At least that's part of it.
I'm not sure where I stand on it....I'm glad not to be married now. A lot of my friends are getting married now, or are already married (I'm 27). I feel that there is more pressure to get married here than some other places. Lots of older single people in bigger cities too. I know some co-workers my age who are driving themselves crazy trying to "land a spouse".
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Coremodels
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The one thing I will say, as a guy in his latter 30's...dating women you own age at this point is kinda brutal. There's a quiet desperation among a LOT of them about the whole marriage thing (becomes a little less quiet after the 3rd or 4th date), particularly if they never have been married. Divorced women in their 30's and 40's a lot of the time are really at peace with it and just kind of want to do their thing...which is cool.
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rave_til_dawn
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honavery wrote I know some co-workers my age who are driving themselves crazy trying to "land a spouse".
And obviously, that's probably 1 of the worst motivators to do it. Probably also explains the divorce rates. Folks are willing to look past a persons "issues" just to get married, only to realize after the wedding, they can't live the rest of their life with said "issues".
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enzo
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The marriage part is just a show, if you do not have the integral parts necessary to make it happy, joyous and fun, then it turns into paper and jewelry....the soul of the relationship deteriorates. Stay green, keep building on the foundation and never rest on your laurels and it is more than the paper and the rings.
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Coremodels wrote The one thing I will say, as a guy in his latter 30's...dating women you own age at this point is kinda brutal. There's a quiet desperation among a LOT of them about the whole marriage thing (becomes a little less quiet after the 3rd or 4th date), particularly if they never have been married. Divorced women in their 30's and 40's a lot of the time are really at peace with it and just kind of want to do their thing...which is cool.
YES WE DO!!!!
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rave_til_dawn
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enzo wrote Stay green, keep building on the foundation and never rest on your laurels and it is more than the paper and the rings.
Totally agree.
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