misskitty wrote >>
Let me start by saying I am all for this and the equal rights that comes with it.
But it seems like the promotion of it may have more people on board if they would address it as a civil union as opposed to a marriage. I have talked to a few people and some seem better with the idea of union more so then marriage.ETA: I realize that civil union does not have all the same rights as marriage under god and state. But in time couldn’t that be changed ?
I actually agree with this...the defense is at least as much for the word "marriage" as for the accompanying rights. Having grown up in the church, I've had my chance to ask several people who are VERY strongly opposed to gay marriage how they feel about equal rights for things like hospital visitation, next of kin stuff, filing taxes jointly...that sort of thing. A surprising (to me) number said "Sure, give 'em that stuff, they just can't be married." If civil unions have the necessary support to move forward, but gay marriage doesn't then it seems like a no-brainer to move forward on the civil unions, especially if we can make civil unions legally identical to marriage.
I'm not sure the state should be involved in marriages at all anyway...when I get married someday, I'll be married once I go through the ceremony in my church, not when some government worker hands me a piece of paper. I rank the vow before God slightly ahead of the vow before the civil servant. The "marriage license" is just me letting them know. I wouldn't mind if people got married in a church and got their civil union from the government regardless of orientation...but I guess that's another discussion.