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Hello,
My husband is not into the whole nightlife thing. I'm not really into it either, but once a month or less I like to go out and have a few drinks with my friends, dance, listen to music, etc. I think it's fun. I do *not* go to get hit on or check out guys. I'm not going to lie, though, if a guy gives me the eye, I find it flattering. BUT, that's where it ends. I don't give off the "green light" to approach me, so hardly anyone ever does. One night I stayed out "too late" (3 AM) and since then he has basically told me I'm not allowed to go dancing, because it's a "sexualized" atmosphere. So I asked him to go with me to ladies eighties at Skully's (which I've asked him to go dancing countless times before, but he never wants to). So we're at Skully's the other night and a good song comes on and I say that I'm going to go dance (we were seated right on the edge of the dance floor, so I'd be like 5 feet away from him). Well apparently since I didn't explicitly ask him to dance with me, he thinks that I wanted to dance alone so that I would be "available." I wasn't trying to dance alone. I figured if he wanted to dance, he'd dance. He did come out and dance with me, which was great, but I wonder if he only did that partly to stake his claim or something.
We've been together for nearly 20 years, but this is starting to tick me off. I'm a "good girl," I don't dance seductively (I'm more of a jumper), I'm not a cheater. I fear that I'm nearing the end of the days of dancing because soon I'll be considered too old for it (which apparently he thinks I am). I LOVE ladies eighties because I like the music and sometimes I like to dance. Mostly I like to sit, have a drink, and people-watch. I feel smothered by him, and we've talked at length about this issue, but he will not budge.
Add to this that most of my friends won't go out on Thursday nights because they have to work in the AM (I only want to stay out till perhaps 1 AM), and I'm getting irritated! Am I the only 39 year old who likes to go out once in a while? Is my husband being reasonable?
Dang, sorry this is so long!
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